Like country, like morals, they say. But isn't that a mistake? Isn't it rather the case that it is our morality that determines what conditions we live in, who we work for and how we feel? What I really can't do is cheat on my wife, make excuses for my problems and secretly see someone else.
There would be absolutely nothing to comment on about the whole Chief of Staff separation affair if it wasn't made public. If the tabloids had come up with it, it would still be unworthy of comment, but since the head of the army, which provides our security, has come up with it, we are naturally interested. Let me just make two comments.
One. To say that dysfunctional family relationships don't affect the job is, to put it very mildly, chutzpah. On the contrary, dysfunctional and dysfunctional relationships in marriage and family have the greatest impact on work performance. Simply because life is not a piece of meat to be easily cut up and separated. In real life, everything is connected.
Second. Was the General unfaithful to his wife or not? I apologize for the somewhat antisocial question, but in the case of leaders, it's probably out of place in any society. Because there's only one moral integrity. There is no other.
If I have problems in my marriage, I have two fair options - I can successfully resolve those problems together with my mistress, or I can divorce. Both are fine. What I really can't do is cheat on my wife, make excuses for my problems, and secretly see someone else.
An example from history, not so long ago. The Commander-in-Chief of the US Armed Forces, 4-star General Petraeus, resigned soon after it was revealed that he was cheating on his wife. Although he was not violating any military regulations or American laws, infidelity was evidence of compromised moral integrity to mainstream American society, and without that quality, General Petraeus could not command the military. So he sent a letter of resignation to President Obama and he responded very quickly - within 24 hours he accepted it and General Petraeus was finished once and for all.
There are two words in the English language: embarrassment and goofball. Etymologically, they are dangerously close. The explanation is obvious: most of the problems we face in life are our own fault. And the little bit of wisdom that we all have is that we can admit it and behave more or less responsibly in life.
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